Caregiver Support

Caregivers are so busy taking care of their loved one that they often neglect their own health and well-being. Many caregivers even feel guilty about any time and attention they devote to their own needs. But no one can be expected to devote all of their energy and time to someone else. Each of us deserves time to meet our own physical, emotional and social needs. Ignoring your own needs can lead to physical and emotional exhaustion, which can cause health problems and also lead to resentment in your relationship with your loved one. Try these suggestions for taking care of yourself, because your health and well-being are important, too.

Take time for yourself.
Getting respite from your caring responsibilities is necessary. Everyone needs a break from time to time. Make a list of people you trust who can take your place while you take time for yourself. If you don't know anyone who can take over for you, and you can't afford to hire someone, call your local hospital, your place of worship, or your local volunteer center. They may be able to refer you to a qualified volunteer.

Spend time with friends.
Devoting all of your time and attention to your loved one can mean you spend less and less time with friends. Make plans to spend time with your friends. Let them know how much their time and support mean to you. Maintaining those connections with others outside the home can help you find relief and maintain a sense of independence.

Exercise and stay active.
Daily exercise, such as a walking or biking, can help you relieve stress and maintain your health. Many people also find that exercise gives them some alone time they crave. If you can join a gym, you may also find that yoga or aerobics classes help you stay fit while connecting with others.

Eat a balanced diet.
A healthy diet is not just good for your health; it's also good for how you feel. Eat a diet rich in fresh fruits and vegetables. Choose whole grains and minimize fatty foods. Make sure you don't skip meals or rely on fast food. A balanced, healthy diet will help you stay on an even keel and have the energy you need.

Stay engaged.
Make time for hobbies, reading, attending events and other activities that help you feel mentally engaged. Join a book club, see a museum exhibit or watch a movie. Keeping mentally engaged can keep you interested and motivated in your life.

Join an MS support group.
Many hospitals and clinics have support groups just for caregivers of people with chronic disease. Ask the healthcare provider or call your local chapter of the National Multiple Sclerosis Society for help in finding a support group near you. Sharing your experiences with others who know exactly what you're going through can be a powerful source of support.

See your healthcare provider regularly.
Don't neglect your own check-ups and health appointments. Get your annual physical, keep regular appointments with your dentist, and see your own healthcare provider when you are sick.

If you have ever taken a trip by airplane, you may remember the flight attendants talking about safety procedures. If the cabin loses pressure, they say, the oxygen mask will drop from the overhead compartment. And then you are told you should put your own oxygen mask on before attending to anyone who needs help. The principle here is basic. If you don't have enough oxygen, you will be unable to help someone else. The same principle applies to being the caregiver of someone with multiple sclerosis. Your health and well-being must be attended to. Otherwise, both you and your loved one will suffer. Consider the tips above as important as getting enough oxygen, as necessary as taking a breath of fresh air.

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