Letting Others Help

You're not alone

Because of MS-related fatigue, you may find you need help from friends and family members every so often. In fact, learning to let others help is one of the most important adjustments you can make as you manage your MS over time. To start, you may want to ask a friend or family member to be your MS care partner. You could even build a care partner team. Your MS care partner(s) can:

• Take notes at your doctor visits
• Remind you to take your medication
• Help you with your weekly injections
• Help you keep your insurance coverage on track
• Be there to listen when you just need to talk

Adapting to change

Whether you're experiencing a flare-up, coping with your current symptoms, or simply need to rest more often, you may find there are times when MS interferes with your daily routines.

Aside from the impact this may have on your income or your ability to work, MS can also affect the way you relate to family and friends. Plus, MS may occasionally put limits on your ability to participate in some social events or interact with those close to you.

By staying positive, however, many people with MS learn to adapt. And like them, you can learn to:

• Accept that, sometimes, you may need help with everyday things
• Have the patience to help loved ones understand how MS affects you
• Stay actively involved in family life; continue to share your love and support
• Find new, MS-friendly activities you can share with family and friends.

Reaffirming the support of your family and friends

Because MS affects everyone differently, and at different times, you never know when you may have a flare-up or how your symptoms and needs may change over time. So as you adapt to living with MS, it's important to understand the stress this uncertainty can have on your relationship with your family and friends. To help deal with that stress you can:

• Share your feelings about living with MS
• Help your loved ones understand how MS affects you
• Stay positive and seek advice about managing your condition
• Get psychological counseling if your concerns about MS affect your mood
• Stay on treatment to delay the progression of physical disability
• Be flexible as you seek solutions to practical problems
• Take time to discuss how your needs may change over time

Above all, as at any time in your relationships, work to reaffirm your love and commitment to those around you every day. Remember, you're not defined by your MS. It's the choices you make and the impact you have on others that make you who you are. Sharing how your life has changed with MS—and how much you appreciate your friends' or loved ones' help—is one way to keep your relationship strong.